We have just had an Eureka moment. 2 fried ECUs and countless hours after:
We managed to pinpoint the wires for injectors 1,2,3 and 4 that come out of the ECU. In doing that we tested using a long wire for continuity as @naru2 suggested on all wires. We found all wires were continuous from ECU to each injector. HOWEVER, what we also found was that wires #3 and #4 are touching each other, there is a resistance of 0.26 Ohms between them! We tested this at the beginning right out of the ECU and the main engine harness therefore identifying the issue in between these points. This suggests the following :
The ECU controls 2 injectors at a time with one driver, 1 and 2 are fine and working.
Injectors 3 and 4 are working and their harnesses are fine BUT only by disconnecting injector #4 the ECU is prevented from shorting between injectors 3 and 4.
Originally the stock ECU was fried exactly on the driver /transistor/diode where injectors 3 and 4 operate.
Wires 3 and 4 are touching each other at one point. The car would either start with 3 cylinders or not start at all with all 4 as of now.
The next action is: Source a new ECU or try to fix one of them.
Either identify the torn/broken wires and fix them or fabricate a separate wiring that takes ECU signals from ECU to injectors 3 and 4 and bypass the now known troublesome wires.
By confirming continuity among 3 and 4 wires we can confirm that this nullifies operation for these cylinders.
I had uploaded a picture showing a wire labeled as ECU injector #3 but this was wrong, that wire was for something else, hence me frying the ECU. "You also learn by breaking things"
The image below shows our Eureka moment, there should not be any reading between these prongs. We found a reading both at the beginning of the ECU and at the ending of the engine wire loom. Here are our culprits.
I will work on this over the weekend and onwards with more updates. Thanks to @idosubaru @john in KY @el_freddo @naru2 @DaveT and all of you guys for the constant help. I think I'm nearly there