You guys are great. Thank you for all the advice. After reading your posts, I'm feeling that SOA will help out in some fashion.
So far, I called SOA this afternoon (Subaru dealer handed me their phone number) and sweet talked them, saying how much I love my car and that this has been going on for some time, but mouch more noticeable of late. I didn't have my vin # on me, which may have been a slight mistake because they said they could find it for be by calling my dealer, which is where the car was when I called SOA, then call me back, which they haven't yet done. So, I will call them tomorrow early am.
The ATF has been changed at 30k and 60k. The 30k was done at my local dealer and the 60k out of town, but at a certified Subaru dealership. The last change they put a little too much in, and was drained two days ago to the proper level.
After hearing your advice about getting a transmission service and a second opinion, I think I'll do that early next week. $3000 is a lot to spend, about 1/4 of what KBB values this car at!
Thanks again, if anyone's interested I'll keep updating people this post on my progress.
Ryan